December 30, 2014

Just Married? Get Ready For The Post-Honeymoon Blues


Just Married? Get Ready For The Post-Honeymoon Blues


You met your match, fell in love, got hitched, and now you're living the fairy tale you have always imagined. Wouldn't it be a wonderful thing if it was that easy? Well, despite your childhood perception of how it's suppose to be, marriage is hard work! That prince charming you plan to spend the rest of your life with is a sinner, makes mistakes, has bad days, and will inevitably hurt your feelings. And Cinderella, there's no hall pass for you ether. We are all imperfect people (Romans 3:23).

When people say that the first year of marriage is the hardest, they ain't kidding. As soon as my husband and I stepped foot off the cruise ship from our honeymoon, I became disillusioned and confused. You see, we had been on the same page before our wedding, but then it all seemed to change so fast. It was extremely tough adjusting from our romantic courtship stage into the reality of real life.

About six months into our marriage, I remember a friend asking me how married life was going. I answered, "Well, we haven't killed each other yet." She laughed, but what she didn't know is that I wasn't really joking. My husband and I started to butt heads on many issues like priorities, sex, work, and money. We were both stubborn and set in our own ways, so a power struggle soon followed. It was a roller-coaster of frustrated and disappointed.

Just Married? Get Ready For The Post-Honeymoon Blues
Eventually, we made it past the post-honeymoon blue period and started getting into the groove. The key point that I want to make here is that we did not give up on each other! We kept praying and trusting in God to help us survive through those difficult times. And our marriage bond keeps getting stronger as we continue to learn how to work together and love each other.

To sum things up, your marriage won't always be rainbows and butterflies. Yet, it can be beautiful and fulfilling when you and your spouse trust in God and work together. Listed below are a few words of wisdom for anyone that is a newlywed or even engaged. And as always, please feel free to share your thoughts, ideas, and advice in the comment section. 
  1. Keep God as the glue that holds your marriage together.
  2. Conflicts will happen, so express your feelings respectfully.
  3. Forgive and then forgive again. (I have a hard time with this one.)
  4. Be realistic about the expectations you have for your spouse. 
  5. Lean the art of compromise.
  6. Work together as a team.
  7. Continuing dating and pursuing each other. 
  8. In all circumstances, pray for your spouse and marriage. 
  9. Have a thankful heart.
  10. Never give up on each other!  


Scripture Resources:


Proverbs 10:12
Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.

Romans 3:23
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,

1 Thessalonians 5:18

give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

Colossians 3:18-19
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.

Hebrews 4:16
Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

Romans 15:13
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.

Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.

Proverbs 31:10
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.

Psalm 37:5
Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act.

Hebrews 13:4
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.


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