Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. -Ephesians 4:32 (NIV)
1. Write down, circle, underline, or highlight the feelings caused by the person
that you need to forgive. This will help you identify the emotional pain that needs to be healed.
- View/Download Emotional Pain Words Worksheet By Clicking Here (example of words: rejected, abandoned, angry, hurt, etc.)
2. Once you have acknowledged the emotional pain words, write down and reflect on what happened that caused them. Here are a few examples.....
Example 1: I never felt supported by my father when he didn't attended any of my football, hockey, or basketball games in high school. This caused me to feel: Alone, like I didn't measure up, unloved, and not supported.
Example 2: Last Christmas Night, I overheard my sister saying to the family that I needed to lay off the sweets because I was getting fat. She was very aware that I had been struggling for a while with my weight. This caused me to feel: Wounded, hurt, ugly, worthless, ashamed, and like I didn't belong.
Example 3: I moved across country, sold my business, sold my home, and left all my friends to be closer to Sue's family and she left me two months later. I felt that I gave all I had to make my marriage work and she wouldn't stick it out. This caused me feel: Betrayed, tricked, confused, broken, ashamed, unwanted, like a failure, abandoned, and embarrassed.
3. Prayer of Forgiveness:
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(Prayer written by: John Regier)
Lord, I choose to forgive ___(name)___ for ____(issue)____ causing me to feel _____(emotional pain)______. I am willing to pay for the emotional pain and consequences that __(name)__ has caused me. I ask you, Lord Jesus, to take back the ground I gave to the enemy through my bitterness and I yield that ground to Your control.
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